Monday, 26 January 2015

Top 3 techniques for knowing yourself better in Psychology

I couldn't lie how I loved writing and pouring out my heart on this blog. Well, say what, I just read this is a part of psychological treatments. No wonder it worked so well in my deadly days!

We're going to learn today-


Why do we need to learn?

There is this desire in each of us that we cannot accept barely. It is the unscrupulous, hated, anxious self i.e. our unconscious self. There resides many impressions, each of which have had some impact on us at certain time in life. Some of them are our moral responsibilities to restrain eg. murder. But if we repress, it increases in us the 'pent up' emotion. Thus there is a way to do it well, techniques to clear it out-Self Analysis. This on the whole will help you know yourself better, thus increasing confidence, security and self satisfaction.



Top 3 Techniques o Self-Analysis:


  1. The Autobiographical Method

    This is a story of your life, everyone has one & it doesn't take an author. Contrary to your belief, every one our lives can be a great movie. It is full of facts and secrets that we only know. This autobiography shall be only for you. You must secure its position and in it write all you have had. Start with your youngest years, the people you know, how any situation occurred,how you reacted to it, what were your emotional reactions, what were your thoughts,your degree of responsibility towards the situation,the secrets. Any situation where you wanted to act differently, jot down all the factors associated with it and justify your behavior. you must reasonably fight this case in your behalf and come to a conclusion. Once you have decided, your head gets clear and life easy.
    eg. prob:I wished I had cracked the medical exam if only I had not fallen sick
          soln:I will do it this next year
  2. The Questionnaire Method

    Jot down a list of all the life-problems you have. Then write the answers to each of them. Even if you don't know, write what you think is best solution because here you have to write an answer, don't worry sometimes when we are not sure, it is the best solution. This is a different way of approaching the first method but if you put together all the answers, you get your autobiography-kind of.
  3. Free Association Method

    This is talking out the cause of your troubles. The psychiatrist urges to talk on the problem areas like vengeance and more the person speaks, more is he cured. We sometimes have a chain of thoughts and currently stick to only the resultant of despair or frustration. Slowly when the thoughts are revealed out of our system, it already gets out.
    This similar thing happens when we recite it in a poem,blog,song etc. Expression is thus very important.

courtesy reference-Helping Yourself With Psychiatry by Dr.Frank S. Caprio, M.D.


Let me know which of them you tried and how did you find this insight into yourself? Share in comments below.


Saturday, 24 January 2015

Not another 'Pimple'...our girly issues & great video from Michelle Phan added

I decided to make this post a little informative. Here's little to learn and know.


Here's  a small story:

I once had a big crush on a next-door guy. We had front facing windows and we had a secret text for communication. We were the best of friends and now I had a crush on him. When our big day came, I was going to tell him this at the park we often met. I had a bad day then, a pimple and I didn't go to the park. The next day, he had a girl with him. We walked together but I knew he had his girl. I missed my chance. It was not just the pimple but I was feeling down for it to some extent. It really was more coincidence. 10 years later, we met in a new city and he told me that in his teens he admired me so much and that I would never agree to be his girl. It was the 'Out of my league' concept. I only repented that day ever since. 
Sometimes things are out of control but pimples aren't. Small things that we do for ourselves like taking care of ourselves, help us love and know ourselves more. 'Pimples' are a part of external beauty and do not define us in any way. However, looking after ourselves help us achieve the best of our inner and outer self. You will fall in love with yourself, you are a lovely person, you should care for it. 

Types of Pimples-


  1. Blackhead
  2. Whitehead
  3. Infectious lesions
If you are at No. 3-'infectious lesions' you need to run to the skin care doctor. They are highly infected and therefore appear scary. I don't get them, so i'm lucky but I do get a lot of trouble from No. 1 and 2 i.e. Blackhead and Whitehead. Just like the name, the portion we see, the head is of the color 'black' or 'white'. We all hate it!

It's usually not a health problem and is suggestive of hormone level changes which leads to extra oil secretion. Some people are more prone to it while others aren't.


Solutions to Pimples-

  1. Keep your face clean
  2. Keep it well nourished
  3. Avoid clogged pores
  4. Let them be.
    If you pinch them, they will stain your face. If you don't, some of them disappear once your hormone levels have changed back.

Common problems (pimples):

  1. Leaves scars as I tamper with it
  2. One leads to many at times
  3. Itchy, red areas
  4. Agitated skin if I apply makeup
  5. Results in my lack of confidence

Day-to-day trouble it brings:

  1. Postpone my dates for acquaintance or interviews as i'm not very confident
  2. Lesser attractive to dates, however virtual that sounds
  3. Sometimes messing with dust swells it up further
  4. College life gets a little dull as everyone notices it weirdly
  5. Can't wear my spectacles if it's over my nose bridge
  6. There is a oily smell over the face 


This is written as an entry to the competition hosted by Garnier Pure Active Neem. I have not used it, so I cannot recommend it. However I have used commercial Neem products and they have done good to my skin. Here are a few links for more details on this product:-



Here's a great toothbrush video from my fav makeup artist & entrepreneur Michelle Phan

courtesy-Michelle Phan <3 her


Do you face similar skin problem or different ones? Share and comment below.

Sunday, 18 January 2015

bargain

Falling in love with a friend can be awkward, specially if its not reciprocated. From this time there are few options-what would you do, would you still remain a friend just to stay close? Or give it up for you cannot stay and see him as someone else's?






This is a battle
Between you and me,
Even though you know not,
You will fight,
For it is in our nature,
To defend before we fend
And I will lose a dying battle,
Like every other instance;

The problem is I will leave,
This last time,
For I cannot share what is just mine,
I cannot share even if it's not mine;
I just didn't learn How To Bargain!

The course is simple,
The rules unchanged,
The game will be judged same,
Only you have another name;

Between friendship and love,
I couldn't be in dilemma anymore,
I told you the truth,
And I meant it the more,
Even if you didn't...

You didn't think necessary to descend,
From your seat of solitude,
Where 'Ego' lies beyond us;

So, As a friend I decline,
For I cannot promise,
I won't fall,
In Love again,
If I knew,
I wouldn't in the first place,
But since I have,
I will let you play the game,
And farewell now,
Since it's not just hard,
But pretty weird,
To be the diplomat,
For i'm neither a friend nor a Lover;

I just didn't learn How To Bargain!





How do you feel about this? I'd love to know in comments below.

Saturday, 10 January 2015

Top 6 blogs you loved in 2014

Here's your loved content, all the poems and stories close to our hearts. Click the Topics to read the story.



1. I don't know you but I believe in your dreams!

-An inspiring collection of pics for all those who have a dream and are chasing it!






2.My Song-'Coming home this Christmas'

- A home recorded song on 2014 Christmas for our college sweet hearts, thank you for loving it so much <3






3.  'Reflection' - A short song poem

- Describes the power of silence that a girl uses to be heard and it reverberates after her life. A short poem, may adieu to rhyme not rhythm.





4. Soul Departure - romantic take

-Found your soul mate? She did too, yet they have to part. On this heart breaking journey she opens her heart into words and we see a world of innocence within.






5. A Christmas story - things to do on Christmas

-A pictorial guide to a few things we could do on Christmas to make it even better. The post ends with a hangout session recorded for a lovely Christmas & New Year '14






6. Just hold my hand

-A short Indie story with a happy romantic ending, loaded with a video teaser by British Airways



Some of the photographs are not mine, collected over the internet. Have some missing pic sources, sorry for that, will update of I do stumble on them.

Do share any post you feel can help cheer up someone else or one for a reason important for you. Also, comment or email to let me know your how you liked it.

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