Women have been considered to be a very complex creation. It is humorously referred to as a topic which would make huge books and yet not cover it wholely. Wrong, well to some extent at least. Here I will try to explain to you some small things that have caused me to ditch a possible date. I do believe there is scope of improvement on either side. I will also help you with a guideline which I feel can help you understand woman. Personally I feel there needs to be a manual. But since I don't have the time to pen that yet, we'll start with the blog.
How women communicate?
Strangely women find it difficult to understand men and vice versa. Yet, we can understand our BFF (of same gender mostly). That's probably because we fundamentally communicate very differently. Men use words while women use feelings. Men need trust and protection while women need respect and understanding of her mood swings. Refer to the book at the end,it explains the idea very well.
We appreciate a warm hug when we are troubled that says "I'm there for you no matter what". An eerie sudden hug is equally unappreciated. We act differently around people we genuinely like. You'd notice we care, sometimes not very obvious as that's awkward. And we blush, that's a no brainer ;) And we smile just a lot.
Top Downgraders for women-
1. Talking about too much sex/bodily pleasure etc.
-it's simple psychology. It reflects your attitude towards the relationship which hasn't started yet. It's a red sign for the long run as you're willing to do nothing but stick to the petty stuff like sex. If that excites you great but we are pretty sure that's not why either of us should like each other. There needs to be more substance unless you're looking for a fling etc. And we generally aren't wasting time & feelings on that.
2. Not being sorry
This works on both ends. We all have ego issues. But with better maturity you must realize this is a small thing. Never let a sorry some between the 2 of you. But then a balance between frequency of sorry s can be good. Otherwise 1 partner will suffer from virtual compromise.
3. Being insensitive/otherwise
Be normal that's it. You're insensitiveness to an extent which is paranormal can only be of caution. While dating a vegan, if the person is too rigid he/she may hurt you by demanding justice for the food you eat. This is over sensitive. Now there's a tie :p
4. Me talks-attitude
Hell what do you think of yourself? Have you seen Einstein talking bull shit? Well, now you know who you are. The lesser you talk about yourself, the better it reflects how many book you've read, how many people you met and in short your brain sanity. Grow up!
5. The perfect guy
I'm not sure if all girls would agree with me. But most women would. Your great muscles and perfect body may be appealing but is never enough. Not even your Brad Pitt face can make up. What makes you beautiful is a fallacy. Everyone has one/more but only few are aware of it. When you strive for greatness, courage, extraordinary-that is sexy. We are naturally attracted to you.
6. When parent talk freaks you
Okay. You wanna go out with me. Good. But the very mention of the reason I exist freaks you out. Red flag ladies....he's not thinking long term or he already has issues here. We'll appreciate if you speak up. We can help you sort it. But if you're not ready for parent talk....well grow up then. If not, it's better to part.
Here's a great book to read (open's up the mind):
'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus' by John Gray
P.S. -All places 'we' mean women as I am a woman. FYI.
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